Mamita, Just Shut Up

So, yall know I be on Gchat all day. Dont judge.

Well one day a gchat convo with one of my homeboys proved that sometimes women are their own enemies...

He was going away and dealing (and when I say dealing I mean he was her gray area nigga or GAN") with this girl. She ever lightly told him be careful and have safe sex. He was so hype. "This is why I like her. She cool and realistic"

The next day they got into it because he was going away and she just knew he was gonna have sex and she was mad...

Wait. What...?

Like, she told him less than 24hrs ago that she wanted him to be safe, now she beefing. And he was confused. As he should be! Why would she say one thing one day and the next day do a complete 180?

Cause she was talking to talk...

Lord, I love being a woman sometimes, but we got this all wrong. We need to understand what we can and can not handle, and not play a game we don't know the rules too. You upset about him going away and potentially having sex with another girl? Say THAT... dont try to be cool and be the down ass chick and say what you think he wants to hear and wait for his false reassurance so your insecurities can be subdued. If you know you’re not in the place to have a real say about who what he does... then Mamita... CALLATE..

That means Shut Up in Spanish...Let Chiquita speak

We try to portray what we think men want to see sometimes and try to play a game we are not equipped for. You think relationships are a game… Fine, go in with that mentality... but people practice for games. They prepare. They know their skill level, and they PLAY THE POSITION (y'all know how I feel about that) that amplifies their strengths. You know you can not have sex without emotion, don't go into a casual sex relationship hoping that spin move or that thing you do with your tongue gonna make him want to erase the next joint number out his phone. It wont... it does mean he will come back for more causal sex… and the spin move.. and the little thing you do with your tongue.

<---Quiet for you




What makes it worse is now when we change our story, or we get out of pocket. One art that I think females (me included) have not mastered is when to shut the fuck up. Men are so cool, calm, and collected... it irks the hell out of me. I hate arguing but I need a response when I'm talking about shit that I feel is important. Nonchalant and dismissive responses get on my nerves, and I will keep talking until I get a response. Not cause I want an argument, but because I want a response.

However, I’m sure if I just shut up a few times in this life, I could have avoided a lot of bullshit and unnecessary arguments. It’s my own fault...

They say the first step to recovery is acceptance.

So next time you feel a certain type of way ladies, and you about to say something. STOP! Think about it. Will this make the situation better? Will it make you FEEL better (which I feel if you need to say it then you should)? But if its just you saying something to get a response, or you saying something smart to something you agreed about not to long ago… then well…