For Colored Girls

So this weekend I went to go see the Tyler Perry movie "For Colored Girls". It wasn't exactly what I expected, and I won't be a spoiler, but all I can say is... DAMN




I looked in this movie, and I cried. And the crazy part is I didn't cry for exactly the same reason I thought I was going to. Of course there were parts that I could not help but cry, but some part I looked around and people were sobbing, and I wasn't even sniffling. And y'all know I am a cry baby. This scared me and caused me to cry I cant win. I felt... desensitized. And I felt like it was in direct correlation to this movie

Look what the f*ck black women go through on a regular basis. This isn't that is shocking. Women get raped, beat, whored out, become whores to avoid the pain, have their love trampled on, sh*t the list goes on. We encounter this on a regular basis. To the point where it doesn't faze a person who still cries at coffee commercials. If that's not f*cked up, I dont know what is.

I pray women look at this movie and realize their worth. I watched this and realized how blessed I was. I have not be inflicted by the specific pain these women have, but I have pain none the less. I realized I am Blessed that I am alive, and I am able to wake up everyday, and just enjoy life. Yes, black women go through so much, but we get through just as much.

I also pray everyone looks at the common denominator i noticed during the movie. Every women in this movie went through all there issues, but they all tried to go through it alone. They didn't look to their loved ones, or tried to help their loved ones. I notice with some many females, that they feel like admitting whats going on with their lives to other females. They feel like their burdening them. And can you blame them? How many times your homegirl came and said to you something that she had to do and she was tired or stressed, and your reply was "Yea I know the feeling! My ass had to do that plus...". I do that sh*t all the time. So, even if she was willing to talk, who would want to dump their problems on someone with their own?

So, I am going to make an affirmation. I WILL be there for my female friends. If you guys need someone to talk to, I am here. I wont mention my issues (unless you want to hear..lol). I won't downgrade your problems with my own. I will be your support system. I will be your legs when yours feel weak, you voice when you cant find your own, your tears when you think you have cried til you couldn't, and your smile when you don't have the energy to muster your own. I will be your friend.

I told one of my very closest friends who was going THROUGH IT, but shut everyone out to handle it herself cause she didn't want to be a "burden", to cut the shit. I chose to be her friend and I put up the Facebook status:

"When friends need each other, helping isn't a BURDEN. It's LOVE"

She told me to shut up. LOL. Love you guys, and have a good week...