When Is It TOO Much Work?

Ya'll remember last week, the blog I wrote about the email convo on the Clutch magazine article? Well the gentleman who expressed those ideals on women and income hit me up on gchat, cause he read it too. I'm not posting the whole thing but he said something that was like a revelation:

ME: But like you said its not fair
Women compromise. Men should too
Him: also said I am a business man...
and my woamn acts that way
we arent gonna be compaitilbel...
cant have 2 super driven type-A personalitiesunder the same roof
Me: You can. It will just take a lot more work
Him: opposites attract i think -
yeah i guess it could work - but damn - I don't wanna come home from work
and work on my relationship
can I just chill and scratch my toes?
lol
Me: Now that is the realest sh*t you ever said

*Disclaimer: We had a good convo. He is a good friend of one of my BFF's and I don't hate him. Most of you know if I did, this gchat convo wouldn't of went past "Him-Hey" "Me-Why the hell you talking to me". I actually enjoyed the conversation. He probably gonna start wanting royalties for the amount of entries he inspired, *side eye*.*

Now back to his statement. That sh*t is the truth. I work 8-11 hour days, come home to work the next however many hours trying to make us work? I'm too chubby for that. I don't have the energy. I wanna come home, maybe cook some food, sit on my couch, and lay in Stinkface arms. Its not gonna be like that ALL the time. But I want that to be the norm. One of things I love about Stinkface is he is opposite of me sometimes its also one of the things I hate. Loving him is so easy. We can just chill when we are together. Sit at home and watch TV. And be happy. Of course we argue, and will continue to argue... but it not because we are trying to make it work. It cause we too damn stubborn and both want our way...

Like this young man said S/O to the light skins dropping knowledge, I don't wanna work that hard. I don't wanna have meetings about work, come home then sit and talk about why we argue, or argue about why we don't talk. Not I said the cat to the rat. There should of been a certain level of comfort and ease to start the relationship out in the first place, or it gonna be WW3 Ruff Ryders Volume 1 "tugboats" edition in that piece.Me and Stinkface started out as best friends even though the tricky jerk admitted he was only my friend cause he liked me, hmph. If you started the relationship not agreeing on anything, and arguing about everything... That's not fiery passion... that's a damn scene. I don't care how good the sex is... you relationship is a tragedy.

Now, some of these relationships do work out. If some of the follwoing criteria offend you I apologize. I'm not being rude or racist, I am just being real.

One or both partner(s)(usually the female) is of Latin decent- I am not trying to be rude. But it is common knowledge that a lot of Hispanic couples stay together thru EVERY.DAMN.THING. They fight daily, cheat monthly, ignore each other, stab their partners tire or back if they look at the cashier in Bravo too hard, and yet have a tat with their "boo's" names on it and "forever" in script on their arm the next day. o_O I can also admire this. It takes a lot of time, energy, and patience to go through this, and if they willing to go through it who am I too judge? It really might be true love. Word to Marc Anthony and JLo

Someone is pushover- Someone usually has to be a push over for the relationship to work. They are the first on to give in cause they don't want to fight anymore. Or the more dominant partner pushes them to believe that if they don't give in first that they will leave. Tricky Bastards...

They fight for the makeup sex-I don't think I need to say more

They slipped up early in the game, and got kids now they trying to do the "right thing"- Nothing makes people want to work out problems like a child. Its a little miracle. If they can create this beautiful little being, why can't they work out their problems right? Sad thing is, staying for the baby usually makes them have to work harder cause they hate each other and them selves in the long run for doing so.

Now if you reading this and rolling your eyes, neck, and what ever else is able to be rolled in anger saying "Not me and mines, we may not be perfect but we work hard at what we have and we are going to last..." Then that's great. More power to you. These are just my personal opinions. Go read something else please. Maybe I am lazy, maybe I am the pushover HMPH, but I think love is a feeling, not a homework assignment. Of course compromises have to be made, as well as sacrifices, but if it more work than happiness, I am just not down for the cause.