Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Lovers and Friends

Lovers and Friends was the joint in 2004/2005. Of course I never understood the content behind it because I was cuffed like I shot the sheriff and the deputy. Now that I am single, and the song came on the radio, and it was like a whole new song. This sh.t is real. But in all honesty, can you be lovers and just friends?

In my opinion yes and no. The term “lovers” denotes emotions. Once there are emotions involved, yall not just friends. There is something deeper. There is not term, but he probably moved from the friend to the GAN category. Once you start daydreaming about holding hands, or maybe going on dates at candelight, that’s not your friend anymore. You have to establish that with yourself. You have to be honest with yourself. Nothings wrong with wishing there could be more, but there is when you THINK there is something more. Don’t get crazy mamita, cause your feelings will get hurt…

However, if they only daydreams you have are of him hitting from the back while you bent over his balcony, or getting it popping in the back of a red Jeep Liberty, then you really just may be friends. Sometimes tho, you need time to realize this. Sex is a powerful drug (yall know I am a virgin, Im just saying). Horniness can be misinterpreted into feelings. Especially with females. I think the chemical reaction with estrogen and whatever hormone is released when you are turned on scrambles the majority of female’s brains (kind of like the reaction with baking soda and vinegar). Actually, Im absolutely positive. (I was pre-med for a semester of freshman year, I be knowing). That’s why people “talk”, to see where it is going. So someone you thought you liked before could really just be your friend. You got to give yourself time. Once you realize this, its amazing insight. You approach situations differently. Even the sex is different. The person is no longer your lover, or potential one. They’re your friend that your f.cking.

That’s fine too. Honesty is key. Especially with yourself

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